For a while now I've been meaning to write out a list of things that I like in guys because that's a conversation that comes up every now and again. You get to talking with someone and if you're close enough it just sort of happens, gets brought up some how. The thing is I'm never entirely sure how to answer that one. I want lots of things, I think in the moment, how do I list them all? Must be funny, must be charming, must be romantic, must be blah blah blah. Except the thing is, those all sound a little wrong when I write them out or say them aloud. While yes, those are nice, they're not quite on spot for what could really make or break things. Lots of people are charming, are nice, are funny, are something and that's great, but definitely not quite enough.
It came up again recently while talking to an online friend and I decided right then screw it, I'm going to figure this out to some extent and eventually post it for the world to see... That was nearly a month ago and I'm just now getting around to the posting part. I have worked on it since then, started at work one night on a piece of scrap paper. Since then it has evolved some and been tinkered with while feigning interest in the dramatics surrounding me at my main day time employment. All in all I think they're reasonable requirements of sorts... Even if I'm also completely sure that they're why I'll die a crazy cat lady.
1.) Doesn't regularly make me want to feed him to sharks.
- You would think that this is sort of something that makes sense, but I've come to realize that I have a tendency to never pay attention to it until mixed signals have happened or I've said I'm interested in someone. Likeships make you blind or something. Also, I don't literally mean I am going to feed someone to a shark just that sometimes I am done with a situation, an action, something.
2.) Can and does text.
- Here's the deal, I live at work quite often and my main form of communication with my all over the place schedule is text messaging. Calls are pretty rad too, but those aren't always on the table as an option. Thus if I can't text you and have you respond fairly consistently (because hey, life does happen), it just isn't a good fit. That isn't to say if they never text me for like a day or two I'm going to flip the fuck out, just that it should be understood I'm a texter in the worst way.
3.) Drinks like a fish or at least accepts the fact that I do.
- The acceptance part is the one that truly matters. I co-host party events, I enjoy going to parties with other people, I socially drink like a fish and I like it. It's one of those things that will possibly die down with time, but for right now it's a part of me and I'm not going to change it just to be with someone.
4.) Is capable of playing board games and the like while drinking like a fish.
- Not everyone is capable of this, which is a shame at times but it's also okay to an extent. I'm not talking games where you have to really think out your turn (MtG, agricula, etc.), but if you can't even handle Cards Against Humanity while drunk then please go home, <3.
5.) Accepts drunk dials in good humor.
- Yeah, okay, I'm kind of notorious for this. I'm not looking for involved conversations or deep ones. More of a shout, some laughs, and being screamed at by multiple drunk individuals.
6.) Capable of interacting with other hooman beings.
- This is another one of those things that I wish I didn't have to state, but it's something that I've encountered before. Even with my general dislike of people I still enjoy social activities and those involve conversing with other people for unknown lengths of time. Also, as a co-host, I won't always be hanging on the arm of someone to make sure they're okay, they're fine, they're not hiding in a corner. This is true for events I'm not helping in running, but yea...
7.) Similar taste and thoughts on music.
- This is more of a super idealistic one since I do not often find people that listen to the same bands as I do. Really though, the more important part is the thoughts on music. I am not one to beat other genres into the ground, to hate on other music that may aid someone else in their life. I like music for it being music, for it making me happy.
8.) Loves going to concerts - even random ones chosen on a whim.
- I miss concerts something fierce, especially going to them with someone else. There's just something to said about the whole experience and there's so much joy involved for me. Like yea, it's cool that it's not everyone's thing, but it is mine and I want to share it.
9.) Doesn't constantly beat jokes into a bloody pulp.
- Some jokes are hilarious, some can last, and some you just wish you never told someone because ohmygosh they never let it go. Seriously. Dude. For cereals. Just let it die already.
10.) Embraces his inner child.
- Lets go to the zoo! The aquarium! Wonder around a toy store or any store just being silly and looking at things. Be silly, be weird... Color in a book, play with fingerpaints... Just, yea.
11.) Has hair long enough to fiddle with and doesn't mind it being played with. (As a tie in, if there's a beard, also doesn't mind it being touched.)
- This one basically speaks for itself. Like, for realsies.
12.) Enjoys adventures with and without concrete destinations.
- I love road trips to places I have a plan for and those ones you take on a whim. Lets get in the car and just go, go, go.
13.) Plays video games (especially RPGs) and isn't a douche about it.
- The isn't a douche part is quite important. I've met plenty of people who play games that can be absolutely rude over how they're so much better at it than you, that they beat it so quickly, that it is the best best best and everything else is the worst thing ever. I just enjoy them because they're fun to me, I have no reason to hate on other games in a real serious manner. As for playing them in general, I am all for hanging out and playing an rpg even if it is one player because it's just awesome.
14.) Has a life outside of the relationship.
- It's a matter of a healthy existence. If the only thing that exists is the relationship and thus me then I'mma be a worried bee. It's just not right. There was a life before me, there should be one with me.
15.) Capable of taking care of himself.
- This sort of ties in with number fourteen. We're adults, lets both be pals that can pay for our stuff and hang out and not be completely reliant on one another.
16.) Isn't a hairy beast.
- Seriously, so much seriousness there. Too much hair freaks me the frack out and makes me uncomfortable. Like. Why... Why is there so much hair everywhere?
And now for a couple of bonus notations..
Bonus 1.) Has a nifty accent.
- I'm a sucker for a Scottish accent and even a fair amount of southern ones (it's the word reckon that really helps there.) So dating someone with one? Super duper extra nifty.
Bonus 2.) Has a ginger beard.
- This sort of started as a joke once, but really they're kind of magnificent in a way. Not that other colored beards are bad or anything, they're just inferior.
So right, I believe number one is the main reason I will be forever alone and die a crazy cat lady.
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